May 24, 2012
The word belly dance, is a western name for an Arabic style of dancing. In Arabic countries it is simply called oriental dance and some American enthusiasts call it Middle Eastern Dance.
Belly dancing is a form of dance that is not so widely acknowledged in America and other countries, but there is still a large following in the vast ethnic sector. There is a lot of debate in the community as to the exact origin of belly dancing. Some believe it descended from early Egyptian dances, others say it is derived from religious dances and some say it comes from the migration of the Roma people, with Indian origins. No matter where it comes from, the fact remains that it is an exquisite form of dance and its popularity and following grows every year.
Belly dancing is a great way to increase fitness. It is a very active and energetic style of dance, which elevates the heart rate and increases cardio vascular ability, so one of the many benefits of this form of dance is to elevate fitness level, and burn fat. It also helps to stretch the muscles, and limber the joints up so that the participant becomes more nimble and agile. With these two health related factors, it shows us that it’s a great hobby for those with a few extra years on the clock to keep them young and vital, and also just for the general health of people of all ages.
This style of dance can be tailored to suit anyone’s personal abilities, so that it is not overly strenuous on the cardio vascular system, or on the stretch in the muscles. The fat loss aspect is something that belly dancing has actually been manipulated for. Some fitness experts have used belly dancing in personal training regimes to help a client lose weight effectively. This is possible because it is a fun activity, so the client will be happy to perform a certain amount of belly dancing practice each day to work towards their fitness and weight goals.
Males in belly dancing are not very common however there are some males in this form of dance that are very masterful at the art. Even though they are amazing in their performance, they are sometimes not looked upon with much respect in the belly dancing community, as it was an art created by women, and was not intended for men to perform. This topic is one of much debate with the introduction of women’s rights, why shouldn’t men be able to do the same things women can do, and so on.
All these factors make belly dancing an ideal activity for anyone of any skill level or age. It is both fun and good for physical fitness, so there is a number of positive’s and no negatives. Give it a try!
Dane Stanton
http://www.articlesbase.com/fitness-articles/learn-all-the-secrets-of-belly-dancing-99201.html
why isn't my husband making love to me? please read for the entire details?
my husband and i have been married for 7 years im 27 he’s 28. in the beginning we would make love often and it was pretty hot and heavy. in due time it changed for the worst. we make love maybe once every 3 months sometimes once every two months. if i’m lucky once a month which hasn’t happened in a long time.when we do make love it last for about 10 minutes. we have a pretty normal marriage, not a lot of arguing. at times he’s very sweet with cuddling, but for the most part he plays his x box on his days off. we have a 7 month baby girl together. he’s a good provider etc… pretty much we have a pretty normal relationship other then the fact that i have to beg him to make love to me.
i have tried just about every thing to get him interested in having sex but nothing seems to work. i flirt with him to let him know that i want to be intimate with him doesn’t work. i have come straight out to let him know listen i want sex. i have went to Victoria secret to buy lingerie (he says it’s inappropriate), i have learned how to belly dance and other sexual dances for the bedroom to entice him, that hasn’t worked either. he just always has the excuse that i am too tired. so that you know that it’s not me (that i’m a burden) i’ll tell you this…i know that its not my looks. before my husband i made a good living at modeling respectably. when i’m out running errands i get hit on by men all the time so it’s not my looks. i’m an intelligent woman, i speak four languages. before my daughter came along (even though we don’t need the money i keep active by making my own money so yes i’m self efficient. i’m very frugal with spending his money. i keep a clean home, i cook for him even if he comes home extremely late off of work (he owns his own restaurant). and i’m an awesome mom. so there really is no reason to be put off by me.
he just refuses to have sex with me. we fight about it all the time and in the end i lose. i love my husband very much. i’m happy with every thing other then the no sex problem. sadly, it’s having an impact on how i feel about him. i can’t help but to internalized how he responds to me. i have low self esteem thinking it must be me but, when i think logically about it i’m not doing anything wrong. i feel neglected, unloved. i think i’m a good catch so why wont he touch me? i’m so unhappy that i’m considering a divorce i have asked him for a divorce but he says no because he loves me. divorce is a last resort. but no sex is having a deeper impact on the rest our existence together. i lay next to him at night "naked and he wont touch me, he just rolls over and goes to sleep.
one last thing, he has gained about 45 pounds. so maybe that’s a factor. when he says he’s tired i can’t see how that’s a problem coz even though he does work long hours on his feet working hard he only works every other week. every other week he takes a week off but still after a good nights rest he still says he’s too tired to make love.
oh and yes. i jut recently had a birthday, i asked him for sex but, in the end all i got was a single flower no dinner because of the baby. he argued with me all day and wouldn’t even help me out with the baby. AND OF COARSE NO SEX!!!. i’m just so frustrated. i don’t know what to do.
can you please give me your honest opinions about what you think is going on? or any suggestions. that maybe i haven’t tried.
thank you in advance
I TAKE a bath together suck it
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He may be experiencing health difficulties, I would honestly suggest that you do 2 things, go get him checked out by a doctor and then counsling, sex is a big deal, more so than people like to admit, but you need to communicate and let him know that you need this.
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Seriously, have you tried to talk to him about this? May be there are things that he is not happy about but doesn’t want to talk, and that is making him behave the way he is now.
Talk to him. Tell him it’s serious enough to make you think of divorce.
I hope he’d listen and express himself.
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weight gain may cause a man to become less sexual. Because you didn’t give any other reason as to why, that’s most likely it. Your marriage is good, besides in the bedroom, and he wasn’t up for the divorce so he cares for you. You seem to have a good relationship so you should ask him to take Viagra, just take it is all… the rest will take care of itself!
good luck
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I would think he is getting it somewhere else, but maybe he is depressed, the weight gain. Who knows. Try NOT asking and hop on him bump and grind suck it whatever and hop on, if he wont give it nicely take it. men cant controll getting hard so do it. tie him down and get it!!(jk) dont ask just do, see what happens or let him see you doing your own if ya know what i mean and see if he wants to help. put it up in his face, it will be hard to resist! Hope all works out for you!!!
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Maybe he’s depressed. Did he get laid off? Did something bad happen in his life? One symptom of depression is the person stops doing things he/she finds enjoyable.
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Worst case, he is gay. Guy guys do get married, they do have kids, but they really are not into sex with women so you are pretty much out of luck. That is the worst case because he is not interested in women at all, not just you. No matter what you do he is not going to change. (Unless you believe it is a learned behavior and you hire a de-programmer.) You are either going to have to get some action on the side, get a divorce or get use to using toys.
Second worst possibility, he may be getting it somewhere else. If he has a job where he does a lot of traveling, either out of town or he travels around town a lot on a route, he may have something going on the side. If he has one of those jobs where he goes to work at 8 and comes straight home at 5 and he never goes out with the guys or has business meetings in the evening or etc then I think you could count this out.
It could be he has a hormone or prostate problem. If he can not get it up, it is easier to deal with the whole situation by just not getting into that situation. If he can only last 10 minutes when he does it, he may have a problem that a little Viagra might help. You need to find out.
It could be after a long day at work he just is not in the mood for sex as that takes a bit of energy. You might have better luck on the weekend. You migh try grabbing him first thing in the morning when he is well rested. If he is like a lot of guys, he has a hard on in the AM due to needing to urinate. You might "hold him captive" and tell him he can not pee until he takes care of you first.
Or you could simply tell him you are horny and frustrated and you want to make a deal with him. One night a week he has to do what you say and you will "leave him alone" the rest of the week unless he wants to start something. Start at 6 PM and have at it. Perhaps if he knows he is expected to do his duty once a week you can get him into a routine.
Lastly, if you are Jewish, you might tell him that according to the Talmud he is REQUIRED to keep you happy.
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ok this might not be the case but would it be possible that he might be cheating??? you sound fine why wouldn’t a man want to make love to his wife?? i just don’t get it…good luck..the only thing i can tell you is don’t get divorced over something like this if everything else is good..work on your marriage and may god bless you and your family
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Hmmm
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okay i have on idea as to what this may be. i am no proffessional or anything i dont know anything about this. i am only in middle school so i shouldnt be answering but my best guess is…. he mayyyy be cheating on you. like 1% chance. and i only say this because if he doesnt need sexual satisfaction form you.. then who is he getting it from? and since you were a model and you are amazing and everything perfect about a wife, he feels like if he can get you, then he wants to see what else he can get.if i am for some strange reason right about this and he is cheating on you, then its only because HE is insecure. he knows hes lucky to get you, so he feels cocky now and wants to push his luck.
to find out if he is cheating on you, you can do this.
warroses@104krbe.com <– email this with your story and why you think your hubby is cheating on you
for information on this email and what it is follow this link. http://krbe.com/ROULARYANSHOW/RoulaRyansRoses/tabid/201/Default.aspx
please reply to my answer by adding more info on your question please!!!
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Actually that sounds a bit like my marriage used to sound. My husband didn’t ever want to have sex with me and when I came right out and said I needed him, he told me that I was coming off to strong and that was a huge turn off. One thing that worked for me was to crawl into bed naked in the morning right before he woke up and snuggle with him and caress his body. By the time he woke up he was ready to do the deed. Hope this helps. Btw, I have two kids so I know you dont get much time to yourselves. Hope this helps:) Best of luck
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my best friend says thay maybe you should start with alotta touching and oral, i think hes gay. either way gay guys like oral so try that out if it doesnt work from there, ask if hes gay.
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I might be wrong but monitor him for other woman
songs like another woman …Stop asking for sex . when the mood is right take it
and learn how to turn him on without saying a word.
good luck
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You say you speak 4 languages fluently? Use that to your advantage girl!
Personally, I would start whispering the stuff you want in his ear in Spanish or French(or whatever languages you speak). I don’t know what it is, but those 2 languages in particular are HOT and it would be hard for me to turn down sex(and I have a low drive)with my hubby whispering sexy stuff in a foreign language in my ear. Dressing the part of a foreign girl wouldn’t hurt either. Email him using a different address and name, chat with him. Make a date,show up in a wig, lots of lipstick and a trenchcoat! Show him what he’s missing(just don’t get yourself arrested with the flashing thing-lol)!
If this doesn’t work and you’ve done all you can, try marriage counseling. If that doesn’t work or he won’t go, you may have to rethink the marriage. Maybe he is really too tired or depressed though. Maybe there is someone else. Do some digging and just talk to him and ask him why the rejection?
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Men go through the same body image changes we women do but since it all changed after you had the baby your husband may need some kind of therapy to help with issues of seeing you as a mother figure and not a women he can be attracted to right now something changes in a man when his wife has a baby he thinks differently about her not all of them but this can be corrected if he will go and talk to someone
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I’ve ask my husband for a divorce or just to separate awhile and he says ‘no way’ and it’s out of the question. He also says he is fine with our marriage. Our marriage is lacking love and sex and I feel that I am neglected in that way which in turn does not respect him in any way.. Sometimes, I get really upset about that.—- I recently found myself a boyfriend but it’s not the same.
I think your husband (like mine) is really focused on work and providing for the family.. I noticed with mine, he changed after our second baby but I still can’t figure out why he thinks our marriage is good. He thinks it’s a normal marriage and nothing to divorce about…
I know when I gained weight (I’ve lost it now) I didn’t feel like having sex all that much. But usually with guys, that doesn’t matter just as long as they get some. I really think he’s focused on work.
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Several anwers: try counseling, if he won’t go along with you then go by yourself and see if the therapist can pinpoint reasons why he is not engaged in the sexual part of your marriage. Second, maybe you are trying to hard and you should just let it go for a while and maybe he will start to wonder what’s up (men tend to come running towards us when we pull away). Third, write him a positive letter pointing out all the good things you see in him and your marriage and speak honestly about how you miss that personal connection. Do not use the phrases, you never, you always, I wish you would, I wish you wouldn’t – instead use "I"isms, such as I feel unattractive when you don’t acknowledge me in bed, etc. Use I not you, it let’s him know how YOU feel, not all the things he is or is not doing. Good Luck. P.S. I don’t think it is grounds for divorce, a lot of people go through this phase in their marriage especially after children – keep the vows you took seriously and work on your marriage don’t give up.
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take him to the doctor and get him a complete work-over and
find out what the problem is.
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I can sympathize with you. Not because I’ve experienced what you’re going through, but because one thing woman do not like to feel is unloved and empty. My suggestion is actually very elaborate. If you want to know more, email me
. But anyhow, why don’t you first of all corner him and ask him why he doesn’t want to make love to you. And if he STILL doesn’t want to give you a solid confrontation, try to force him to look your way either because of worry, or because you suddenly started not asking him for sex. I would actually prefer if you suddenly one day start acting like everything is normal. MEANING that you wouldn’t cook for him, you’d takecare of your baby more than you do him. And once he realizes that something’s not right, he himself will confront you. So far from his personality, he doesn’t seem to be so unreasonable, so he’ll definitely question you. And once he does, give him that look ( depressive; maybe puppy eyes) and then HOPEFULLY he knows why you’re acting like that. I believe he will not like that your reason for "shunning" him is for sex, BUT atleast, the first step is taken. Also, because he considers lingerie inappropriate, I’m going to assume that he has high morals and might possibly be religious? Maybe the religious part is wrong, but he I think he has high morals, so trying to sexually corner him will give you the result of "That’s inappropriate". If you want me to say more email me ><. I’m not sure wether you’ll even read this 
. I wish you goodness haha. Takecare.
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