The most effective way to let go of the past is to get dressed up, go to your favorite restaurant and eat alone. If you can go there by yourself and have lunch, then you know that you can be OK with being alone. Don’t worry, no one will stare at you, no one will notice you and at the end of the meal you will feel much stronger. Your level of confidence will rise.
However, you should learn that you cannot isolate yourself. You need to be around people. Your friends and family should be the key to finding yourself and love after your break up. Share your feelings – talking helps everything. Whatever you do, do not isolate yourself. You should be with individuals who love you during this time of need.
Also, you’ll want to avoid the drinking, smoking and overeating. People who are severely depressed tend to eat more because they are overwhelmed with feelings. You don’t want to do anything that will jeopardize your health. Instead, you should get hobbies to fill the time and possibly take away the feeling of emptiness.
Find hobbies to fill your hours. Take an art class at the local community college. Learn how to do pottery or sculpt. Join a local pool or bowling league. Take up a hobby that gets you back into interacting with other people, for example dance lessons. Also, you can learn how to write. You can write a story about your life and describe what you are going through. Some of your hobbies could turn into something that you can pursue as a career. You will be able to spend the hours productively, instead of just sitting in front of the TV.
Another important thing to remember is that anger helps heal. There are people who say that you should hold back on your anger. But, if you can get all your feelings out, all your hurt – then you will be able to forgive. Anger is just the beginning of the healing process.
It’s always hard getting over a relationship, but breaking up can sometimes be a blessing.
Pax Shumway
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How can I get over the hurt feelings from a break up when I have to see my ex every week?
My boyfriend and I are seniors in high school. We broke up after a church retreat in June. This was in order for me to truly find myself and find God without any hinderance of a romantic relationship. The same went for him, because he couldn’t be dating and getting discipled by my Pastor at the same time. However, we were weak. We got back together for two weeks or so. With a conscious effort, we finally broke it off for the second time. Though the break up was "mutual", I was still left with some bitter feelings. I was a bit, more like a lot, hurt by the fact that the break up didn’t seem so important to him. He acted so unhurt and so casual about it. While I couldn’t help but cry. I know this was for our own good, but couldn’t he pretend as if he was affected, even just a little? But anyways, we are in the same youth group. As a good christian, I should try to be friends with him and kind to him as a brother in christ. However, it’s just really hard to seem him every week on Sundays and see how well he’s doing. I know this is selfish, but shouldn’t he hurt just as much as me? Why am I the chump in this equation? When I see how well he’s doing, and how he flirts with other girls, it just brings down my whole day. As a committed christian, what should I do?
just go after god and he wil reward u in due time
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You never can be sure if he is hurt or he is not. May be he’s just tryna hide his feeling about the whole thing and move on. You broke up for the first time and you guys came back cos you were weak and couldn’t take it again, guess this guy is just trying to be strong about it this time. Move on and be matured about the whole thing.
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i’m not into the church or religion or anything but if your really upset over this then you should try and get back with him. You broke up to find yourself and god? you can still find that in a relationship.
I have been with my boy for 2 and a half years. and i had no idea who i was until i met him.
Talk to him and ask if he wants to get back with you. chances he would want to.
If you 2 feel like you should be together, then you should do something about.
If people in the church disagree, there only thinking with thier heads and not thier hearts – thats my opinion
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If he is real bad then u dont hav anyproblem seeing him u can get irritated while seeing him, if he good u can still b good frnds and not gf and bf, U hav to talk to him still if he is good, initial stage is always tough u will get over it
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JUS KIDDING be comfortable around him and u will get over in a small period
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I really wanted to answer this but in my ignorance I don’t have time to read through the other replies, so I’m sorry if I’m repeating anything.
He might be upset by this but knows it’s for the best to just suck it up and be a man. If I was you if your jealous give yourself a make over and you’ll have a lot more confidence back, feel better about yourself, and hopefully not feel as bad about the whole thing. Might sound silly, it’s possibly what I would do. Other than this remind yourself WHY you’re not together, they’re good reasons, so keep them close. Hope you feel better soon!
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