Matt Matcherson is a writer musician and humorist. Sometimes he even writes funny music. His site MatchTales brings dating stories, site reviews and free dating support forums to the web.
One of my first “Big Dates” was a Cotillion dance in 8th grade…or was it seventh? Cotillion was an attempt by a local “grande dame” to nurture refined manners in a group of young teens along with ballroom dancing instruction. I think it was a truly nerve wracking experience for most of us! Once a week we would walk a couple blocks from the middle school to the K of C Hall located on the 3rd floor of a downtown building. A virtual skyscraper in our town! Guys wanting a little money would hang about by the door and help the instructor out of her car …open the door. These kind of brownie points paid a couple bucks cash! If you were really good you would carry some of her stuff up the 3 flights of worn wooden stairs. It was one of those buildings that are mystifyingly old…the major mystery to me being that they haven’t burned down!
We would then partner up and learn the rhumba, the foxtrot, the bossa nova, jitterbug, waltz etc. Every so often we would switch partners and during the session you would dance with each of the 50 girls a couple times. All very open stance and supervised…but still at that age, and for a nerdy guy still in his Clark Kent frames it was something of a thrill.
Jenny (names have been changed to protect the sweet and innocent) was a cute little girl from my neighborhood. She lived about 4 blocks away so I only saw her when I was walking home. Her family had a tree between the sidewalk and street with a trunk that was curved from years of kids passing by and jumping up to hang from it…at least I think I wasn’t the only one! Many days Jenny would be waiting by that tree till I passed by and smile nervously saying “Hi”. I too would say “Hi”. Sometimes I even said it first! But always continuing on my way. God only knows what disasters would have occured if I had stopped to talk any further! But this was earthshaking stuff making my head spin on the rest of my walk home.
Well this brazen flirting continued and the pitch of her “Hi’s” became higher and happier. When it was time to invite someone to the dance I found the number in the phone book and spent an hour or so making myself nervous. One of Jenny’s 300 sisters answered the phone and I heard much yelling for her and thumping up and down stairs…I nearly hung up in fear! This was much worse than when the german shephard down the street was chomping on my leg as I rode past on my bike!
I don’t remember the conversation with Jenny…I may have blacked out. But I know it was successful because weeks later I found myself at her house in a suit in this predicament with an enourmous corsage and no clue of how to pin it to her dress. Thankfully her mother came to the rescue. Her mom still laughs about that when she see’s me.
After that awkward scene things got better. We sat with friends and ate, all joking around. Jenny and I actually remembered the different dances and impressed the leader of the orchestra a little. Music, friends and dancing with a childhood crush. There was nothing more to it than that. Really when compared to some of my more recent dates, it is perfect in comparison.
Matt Matcherson
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What are girls from youth curches like?
I heard church was a good place to meet nice girls (yes I am a devout Christian, but my church got closed and my family has decided to not go to another Church due to emotinal attachment to our old one, members 15+ years, we are all still faithful so PLEASE do not flame me with "Lead your family back to gods light" stuff)
With my Sunday mornings now clear I have entertained the thought of joining a youth church. beacuse Ive heard that I could meet a nice girl there, the kind "I would like" as people put it, So I’m just looking for some info
first off Ive heard 3 completely different stories.
1. yeah… those celibate girls…
I live in north Carolina, so are the girls here Christian, or as I fear SUPER Christian (Don’t feed me that crap about pre-marital sinning,)
a. I want a real relationship, with commitment and love, I’m not looking for an easy lay, sex is the furthest thing from my mind when I start dating
b. It may say its wrong in the bible, but think about it, In the Bible you got married when you were 15 and the raging hormones kick in as soon as you have someone its okay to have sex with.
2. Thats just an act to hide there dirty side….
This is the worst scenario, I’m trying to meet a church girl to get away from these harlots, but if there anything like the southern girls from my HS who called themselves devout… Ehhh…
3. There nice girls who like to help people and do good for others, now this is what im looking for, such beauty is a rarity in our world.
so, whats more common place, and how can I go about joining one of these groups. and will this work… and Will this "Ulterior motive" possibly send me to hell…
REPLY TO TEK
Hey, You don’t know me, you don’t know what ive been through, if you’ve seen the pit ive had to go through completely alone all these years you would shake my hand for not only for believing in god, but still not cursing his name.
I do want commitment, Ive tried to date so many girls who were just about sex (but i left them after realizing this, in fact I am still a virgin)
Sex is not as important to me as most guys, If a girl wants to wait, I have no problem with waiting If I’m in love with her. If its true love it will work, when I say SUPER CHRISTIAN I mean such a prude that not only will she not have sex, she will not even allow me to kiss her
I feel like there are no nice girls left, that all the women in the world have turned to the glorified HO lifestyle, and I can’t stand it. didn’t you read, Id rather be with the prude form no.1 then the whore from no.2, Love and Support are far more important to me then sex, and I think that a Nice girl can give me that
you realize though, some of the sluttiest girls are Christian. Meeting a girl at church is not a guarantee you’re finding a "good Christian girl"
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Repressed and only into oral sex, because it’s not really sex
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2. Thats just an act to hide there dirty side….
Seriously…catholic school girls are some of the freakest freaks there are. 65% of the girls in the porn biz went to all girls catholic schools.
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When I was younger I went to a youth church … my church had a young adult service and it was cool. They had good worship music and I met nice people. Some of them were much more religious than me and some were just regular people. I say try out the youth church and experience it for yourself and then make up your own mind.
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They are the same as the girls that you meet in everyday life. Expect a "nice" girl to come along in your 20s or 30s.
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Experience
ok to be honest when I answered this question, the only thing I read was the title…
so… here it goes
girls from youth churches are freaks. They preten to be all proper and praise the lord but catch them when they are comfortable WOO! THEY WILL DO THE FREAKIEST DEAKIEST SHEEET EVA!!?!?!
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I was a church girl once… and thats all I am going to say.
Choose a fairly large non-denominational fellowship and check out their youth group! I know you’ll have a great time getting to know everyone and they will welcome you and be glad to have you join them!
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All the girls at the youth groups I went to were pretty friget and more interested in their god.
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So, you want to go find some Godly young ladies you can lead into the sack before you commit to marry? but, you don’t want any of us brothers to tell you it’s wrong?
You want a relationship, but don’t want serious commitment to be the foundation of that?
So, you’re more concerned with your ulterior motives than building character?
And you wonder if you need to go to church again?
Sir, you need to repent of thinking with your flesh. You need the mind of Christ and need to get right with God on all of your priorities.
Run, do not walk, and find yourself a church that teaches the entire Bible. Not a prosperity church, not a signs and wonders circus. Get to a church where they believe the word of God with reverence and get you in there and ask for prayer. And start reading your Bible again.
The last thing I would suggest is that you go snarking around some youth group looking for a Godly young lady. That’s the last thing you or any of those girls need.
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Honestly, you’ll just meet the right girl one day, probably when you’re not even trying to look for her anymore. These things just happen randomly. Usually when someone goes somewhere to find someone, that’s the time that they’re least likely to do so. I ask one thing of you. Please don’t think that any girl you meet at church is innocent. I’m a Catholic girl who attends church where I’ll see girls at mass on Sunday morning that I just seen in pictures online from the club the night before, getting down and dirty. It’s all very random. You can meet the most beautiful person at the worst place sometimes where you least expect it. Your last comment about finding a girl who likes to help people — why don’t you try volunteering? At a nursing home or a children’s hospital. I’m sure you’ll find a girl who has her priorities straight at a place like that. For all you know, the girl you’re thinking of at church is being forced to be there by her parents and Lord knows what she does behind closed doors.
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This will not be the answer you are hoping for…
In most bible churches the Youth Groups or Adult Christian Single groups are not intended as dating services. They are designed to give like-minded men and women a safe place to go and worship God together, study the Bible and fellowship with others. Singles have interests different than their married friends and so these groups make them feel comfortable and welcome.
This will come as very harsh – please take it in and pray about it before you lash out at me:
Quoting you: (and will this work… and Will this "Ulterior motive" possibly send me to hell…) The only thing that will send you to hell is not accepting Christ as your Savior. If you were "devout", as you claim, you would not refute the Bible (God’s Word) like you do here. The way you present yourself here leads me to believe that the girl you describe as wanting to find will probably not want you. Sorry, but please pray about what you have written and what I have said.
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Reading and studying God’s word.